Showing posts with label Life at Work. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Life at Work. Show all posts

Mar 21, 2011

A field guide to the top 05 most common personality types of Boss


Like any explorer venturing into uncharted territory, the office newbie needs a field guide to the fauna she is likely to encounter. And especially useful is an explanation of the big dogs of Cubicleville — bosses.
Thankfully, the folks at Monster.com are old hands at navigating office politics and have come out with a handy guide for beginners. Monster lays out the five most common types of boss (along with a famous fictional manager to illustrate each one), offering tips on how to handle them.

  • The Authoritative Boss (Don Draper, Mad Men) — The authoritative boss is the ultimate risk-taker and has a flair for drama. On the downside, he can be a poor communicator. He’s creative and perceptive, but he’s also suspicious of others. Sylvia Lafair, the author of Don’t Bring It to Work, says, of this boss type, “Most important is to acknowledge how clever they are, how they seek justice, and how they find really good shortcuts to get the work done.” Lynn Taylor, the author of Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant, suggests you should “get specific” and allow little room for misinterpretation. She also suggests putting communication in an e-mail–this can help prevent miscommunication.

  • The Narcissistic Boss (Miranda Priestly, The Devil Wears Prada) — The narcissistic boss is hugely self-entitled–often justifiably so. She puts herself on a pedestal far above subordinates, of whom she is ruthlessly critical. She does not welcome feedback and has little empathy. Taylor recommends using something she calls the “C.A.L.M.” method with these bosses: “Communicate frequently, honestly, and regularly, so you understand what’s behind all the blustering. Anticipate problems before they occur or become more stressful (don’t encourage a tantrum with bad timing, either). Laugh: A little levity goes a long way when tensions are running high. Manage up by being a role model of good behavior.”

  • The Everyman Boss (Michael Scott, The Office) — This boss is likable enough, but he’s sometimes inappropriate. He manages “from the gut,” and he’s just too wish-washy to lead effectively. Vicky Oliver, the author of 301 Smart Answers to Tough Business Etiquette Questions, says, “try to view his lack of leadership as an opportunity for yourself. … Take the lead in the discussion, but stay detached from any particular outcome. Use logic, rather than unbridled passion.”

  • The Autocratic Boss (Vito Corleone, The Godfather) — Regardless of his physicality, this boss is large and in charge. He is cruel (even a bit of a bully) and sometimes very frightening. Lafair advises, “The best way to handle these bosses is to let them know you appreciate how they have situations under control. [Demonstrate that] you’re willing to be another pair of eyes, so that when chaos and anxiety are stirring, you can be available to help find ways to calm situations down.”

  • The Pace-Setting Boss (Donald Trump, The Apprentice) [OK, he's not fictional, but he is larger than life] — This is the boss who creates a competitive environment at work. He sets very high goals and standards–and is very demanding of employees. Kanefield advises that, with a boss who sets very hard-to-achieve goals, you ask for as many details as possible: “Ask for details about what it means, what the steps look like, who they’ve seen that have done it well–try to get a picture of what success looks like.”

08 Ways to work with negative Poeple.


It’s Saturday and you’re determined to end your workweek on a positive note. The only problem is the chronic complainer in the next cubicle over. Just leaning over and decking the offender isn’t an option (though apparently many of you wish it were) so how can you neutralize the person’s negativity and get on with enjoying your life?
The short answer is don’t seek justice and become determined to show them the error of their ways. Placating them is the route to peace. The long answer was recently written up by the Life hack blog, which offers advice on defusing the whiners in your midst.
  • Don’t get into an argument. Don’t to debate with a negative person. A negative person likely has very staunch views and isn’t going to change that just because of what you said. You can give constructive comments, and if the person rebuts with no signs of backing down, don’t engage further.
  • Empathize with them. Have you ever been annoyed by something before, then have someone tell you to relax? How did you feel? Did you relax as the person suggested or did you feel even more worked up? People who are negative (or upset for that matter) benefit more from an empathetic ear than suggestions/solutions.
  • Lend a helping hand. Some people complain as a way of crying for help. Take the onus to lend a helping hand. Just a simple “Are you okay?” or “Is there anything I can do to help you?” can do wonders.
  • Stick to light topics. Some negative people are triggered by certain topics. Take for example one of my friends who sinks into a self-victimizing mode whenever we talk about his work. No matter what I say (or don’t say), he’ll keep complaining once we talk about work. Simple things like new movies, daily occurrences, common friends, make for light conversation. Keep it to areas the person feels positive towards
  • Ignore the negative comments. If he/she goes into a negative swirl, ignore or give a simple “I see” or “OK” reply. On the other hand, when he/she is being positive, reply in affirmation and enthusiasm.
  • Praise the person for the positive things. Negative people aren’t just negative to others. They’re also negative to themselves. If you already feel negative around them, imagine how they must feel all the time. What are the things the person is good at? What do you like about the person? Recognize the positive things and praise him/her for it.
  • Hang out in groups of three or more. Having someone else in the conversation works wonders in easing the load. In a 1-1 communication, all the negativity will be directed towards you.
  • Reduce contact with them / Avoid them. If all else fails avoid them altogether. Your time is precious, so spend it with people who have positive effects on you.
Remember, at the end of the day you’re responsible for your own mood. If someone is bringing you down it’s on you to find a way to handle the situation. Expecting them to change who they are is just a recipe for frustration.